There are always certain events and people which lead us to reflect on the recent passing of time--some more than others.
I've been entangled in a web of thoughts of a recent gentleman I've been interested in. Unluckily for me, he is just months out of a 6-year long relationship. I am a magnet for the more or less, unavailable types.
It's only been a month since we've met and have been--up until recently-- enjoying the slow-developing bond we were creating.
Now, before I end up revealing details of a relationship I have no rights to, I'd just like to say that I'm the most incomprehensible advocate of staying together or getting back together. But come on, why would I egg on the reunion of the new guy I'm completely digging? Is this a form of Robin-Hoodism?
This is my take on the situation and it's exactly what I shared with the beau:
If you feel as though you've made a mistake (in this situation, he's the one who broke it off) then make your amends and do it with all of your genuine intentions intact. In doing this, the other half--usually having known this individual for some time--will have an immediate inward response. This of course doesn't have to be expressed immediately but should be done with a rather quicker than not answer; this always seems to be a noble action.
If this attempt is not met with ardor or made with it, it's time to move along in the movement of life. We cannot be stagnant creatures. If someone is introduced to the scene and is a rather fixed individual--not the fleeting type--this should be taken into consideration as part of a healing and rebuilding phase. We need relationships to thrive. We are made from the very word. If one combination of individuals doesn't work out then it's okay to try a different one.
People sometimes have this stigma towards those who find themselves in a relationship soon after their last one ended but we need to let go of our standards for other people. We have just a few moments to live and interact and allow ourselves to love and receive love and it'd be a shame to pass on something solid if we are living our lives holding onto only the comforts of the past.
